Most of the Christian couples that I know do not pray together. I know one Christian man who flat out refuses to pray together with his wife. He says he prays by himself, and he won’t ever pray together with his wife. Praying with another person makes him feel too uncomfortable, so he won’t pray with her or anybody. I hate to say it, but his views are not uncommon. Very few Christian couples actually take the time to pray together.

FamilyLife® has surveyed of thousands of Christian couples and found that less than 8% pray together on a regular basis. That is a amazingly low percentage. However, according to the Southern Baptist Convention poll in 2001, of Christian couples who actively pray together, the divorce rate is less than one percent. Less than one percent!This begs the question: How often do you pray with your spouse? Don’t include the mealtime blessing, that doesn’t count. The response to the question is enlightening because most couples very rarely pray together, with the exception of the mealtime blessing. So why don’t we pray with our spouses? I think it is because we just don’t realize the importance of prayer to our marital relationship. Most people acknowledge that prayer is very important to them but they simply fail to do it on any regular basis. The fact of the matter is that if we don’t pray very much, then prayer is really not very important to us. Do you believe that prayer has any real effect on the depth of companionship within your marriage? In reality, whatever you actually do at present in your home is the clearest revelation of what you truly believe regarding prayer. You may say that prayer is important to your relationship with your spouse, but if you are not doing it, then it is not important to you. When I talk about praying with your spouse, I’m talking about the two of you sitting down together, holding hands, and seriously praying. You need to pray together daily if possible, in a place and time when you won’t have distractions. If you have never prayed together as a couple before, you need to learn how to pray together. At first it may seem awkward and uncomfortable, but it will pass. One thing that greatly encourages effective prayer together is acknowledgment of your personal needs in the presence of your spouse before God. Praying for your own personal needs also lets your spouse know how to pray for you during his/her individual personal prayer time. Whatever you don’t pray about in your life you leave up to chance.

Don’t leave your life up to chance…..PRAY.

Jeff Bates